Last week I re-discovered this note in our leadership minutes: "N. [a deaconess] said that Thomas [that's me] should not enter a hazardous situation alone, ever again. Thomas said he promised that he would not, and he could see his mistake. At the same time, he said, it was sometimes difficult to predict what would be a hazardous situation, or to realise soon enough that one had got into one." OBSERVATION: The problem here was slander which arose from a situation to which there were no witnesses. I have a rule -- which in this case I broke. If you even suspect that you could be facing a volatile or hostile situation, do not on any account enter it alone.