Speaking of marriage, this is a favourite photo of mine, of one of E. and my two wedding receptions. This was taken at the traditional reception (the other was a "Western" reception). The photo is, believe it or not, in focus, and the camera held steady. OBSERVATION: But this scene of exuberance and joy was not representative of the mood of the occasion as a whole. While a Western wedding reception is celebratory, an African wedding reception is mournful and prayerful. They are losing a daughter. At this reception, there were many tears.