I make various cultural mistakes in South Africa, yet other cultures are extraordinarily understanding and tolerant of the White man – and sometimes joke about his ways. I bought my sister-in-law some coffee. A woman of the older generation said to me: “In this you did not act correctly. Would you like to know why?” I said I would. She said: “You brought a gift for a child, but you neglected her elders.” I said I would do better next time – which I will.