The author of a well known premarital counselling course (Building Your Marriage Upon The Rock) wrote to me: "I don't know how pastors can cope with all the heartache they witness. I'm also wondering or rather amazed with your experiences as a pastor, with so many people coming to you with severe marriage problems. It would seem to me that you would know all this stuff backwards and forwards." OBSERVATION: While it was not always so, I am confident now in marriage counselling, and have seen many breakthroughs. It is true that marriage counselling may be rough. It may not be a polite conversation in the minister's vestry. In one situation, a husband was threatening his wife with a gun. Ultimately, however, every breakthrough is the Lord's.