I blogged recently that, from my experience in ministry, abortion may be legal, but it is not psychologically or spiritually safe. Holmes and Rahe classify it as the biggest trauma a young woman can experience. Someone who seems to typify my ministry experience is the rocker Suzi Quatro, not only for the trauma she has revealed, but for the "family values" rocker she became. Words of one of her songs: "You were so young, and I was so free ... but baby that's not what I wanted to be." I have found that those who are most outraged by "bad behaviour" in the Church are those who have been there. They are the least willing to tolerate it.