The Weight Of Counsel

Counsel which I have given to congregants, I find, has had more "bite" than counsel I have given to non-congregants. Or perhaps rather, such counsel has been received sooner. I suspect that, with congregants, trust in the counsellor has already been established. OBSERVATION: Some counsellors use "authority tricks", presumably to speed up this "lag" where trust has not yet been adequately established. I find it in no books -- but tricks I know are: issue simple commands to the counselee, use tabu language or actions, rant about your status, use questions which rattle the counselee, speak prophetically ... and so on! I seldom, if ever, use such tricks. Perhaps the first of them.