The Process Of Dying

Someone told me recently that it is unnatural to stop the process of dying. It should not be done. I had an experience of a kind with this when, several times, they pulled my late wife back from the brink (she was in a critical condition several times). I told someone in the Church (call them X) that she was critically ill. A few days later, after massive interventions in hospital, she walked into a Church group. “Good morning,” she said cheerily, and she led the group for an hour with her usual panache. The next time I reported that she was critical, X said: “Nonsense! She's getting better! This whole thing is perverting your judgement!” Such talk isolated us both in our struggle. Long after she died, I had nightmares about her return. In my dreams, she looked as she had done in her final days. “Nonsense!” she would say to me in my dreams. “This whole thing is perverting your judgement!” I would say to her: “Why did we hold a memorial service for you then? We did! What shall I tell all the people?" OBSERVATION: I am not saying that one should not pull someone back from the brink. I am saying that this introduces traumas which could hardly be imagined even fifty years ago.