This one's a re-post -- but an important issue in ministry. There is a difference in ministry between “I could help this person” and “I should help this person”. Too often one falls for the alluring temptation to help because one sees that one could help -- bearing in mind that one is speaking of situations which may be extreme -- a single month in ministry may include (and has included, for me) attempted suicide, domestic violence, terminal illness, and a lot more. Combine this with the fact that other help may not seem to be to hand, and one can forget to spare oneself. OBSERVATION: In my original post, I noted also: "If anything keeps me awake at night, it is what I saw and heard during the day."