There are those few in Church who are delighted to point out who is missing on a Sunday (not in a helpful way). In this regard, my late wife Mirjam had a curious custom. If someone said to her: "There were some people missing from Church today," she would ask: "Who?" Then she would say: "I'll tell you who else has been missing!" and she would name them -- with the Missing Persons List growing longer and longer. I remember one such person being stunned into silence. OBSERVATION: She never did explain that to me. (Churches have generally been quite full under my ministries).