Something I have learnt since marrying into a (largely) Xhosa culture is that they have a completely different attitude to the human body. Almost anything one would take for granted as a European is different. Just think of it, and it's different. The first thing I noticed, unsurprisingly, was the lack of privacy. But since then, my observations have (figuratively) grown to a book. Forget about European sensibilities, European conceptions, European prohibitions. At least, forget about them as you ever thought of them. OBSERVATION: I myself have adapted, to some modest extent. And I can't help thinking that the Xhosa way may be the better way, by and large.