Western couples are very much attuned to words. But as I began to know wife E, I needed to re-learn fast. Her African culture was not attuned to words, but to feelings, dispositions, realities, seasons. One often communicated without words. OBSERVATION: For some time, this was distressing for me, who was used to words -- but now I find that it has "expanded my world". I have become aware of a lot that I wasn't aware of before, not only in E, but in her broader culture -- even beyond.