People who come for counselling will often seem to hide the real issue. They won't open the door and say come in, this is what it is. This applies whether someone comes for counselling alone, or whether they come as a couple or as a group. Yet I have found, through thousands of sessions, that there are two things a counselee will (almost) always tell you in some form: the real trouble, and if they have lied to you. One has to be quick, though, and may need to read between the lines. OBSERVATION: Here is just one example, because it seems to me to illustrate this well. A couple comes for counselling, and there are vicious accusations and very high tension. In the midst of it all, he says quietly, 'I have sugar.' No more, no less, and the battle resumes.
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