Where The Trouble Lies

I find during counselling that the focus of counselees is frequently on surface issues. He said that, or she hit me here, or I caught him in that situation. Often I find myself saying in such situations: “These are not the real issues.” In fact, I think that’s often why people can’t solve their problems: they don't see the real issues. There are deeper issues, for example pervasive neglect or stress. For this reason also, I don’t spend too much time on the surface issues, or demand (as some do) that every detail should out. OBSERVATION: And at the very deepest level, every problem is rooted in one’s understanding of, and relationship with, God.