There is a word in Afrikaans: skaamkwaad. It means anger born of shame. I notice that I have referred to it fleetingly in previous posts. I perceive that there is a phenomenon in ministry where people who have shared their deepest shame with a minister, through counselling, may become angry with the minister, as a reaction to their shame. This typically happens within one to three years -- sometimes faster -- and may be particularly problematic if it is a Church officer. OBSERVATION: A reaction of skaamkwaad is the exception, though. By far the most who share their shame in counselling would seem to have the attitude: "It's our secret -- and thank you."
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